Tuesday, October 22, 2013
Yesterday was my birthday eve. I tend to get nostalgic around the time of my birthday and wind up thinking a lot about where I am personally, emotionally, and professionally. As I’ve always believed that the beginning of the calendar year– which is essentially just one cold, dark hangover– is a terrible time to make resolutions, I instead make resolutions on my birthday. Today, as I share my Tuesday photos, I’ll also share some of the things I’d like to work on in my 26th year of life. (Spoiler Alert: it basically boils down to the fact that I just want to be more like Lucy Liu and less like Drunk Kate.) Enjoy!
First and foremost, I’m going to really try to be a morning person this next year even though doing so basically goes against my nature. You see, I like to think that I’m far more energetic and creative in the evenings but really, drinking wine on my sofa and reading Gawker until two in the morning does not count as being energetic or creative no matter how ferociously I’m opening tabs and clicking through pages. Ergo, I have come to the conclusion that I could use my time much better by waking early, starting work earlier, and exerting my energy whilst the sun is still out.
When I was young, I read somewhere (probably the back of a Wheaties box) that Michael Jordan always woke up when his alarm went off. Even at the age of ten (okay, fifteen…?) I was able to recognise that as the super-human power it so clearly is. So, to take a tip from Mr. Jordan, I’m incrementally setting my alarm earlier and earlier and plan on settling on a 6:45 AM wake-up time here in the next few months. Please pray for David as this transition from night-owl to morning person will definitely be a tough one for him.
David has brought it to my attention numerous times in the last year that I’m kind of a slob. The fact that he and I essentially live like students and don’t have real furniture (as I touched on last week) doesn’t help, of course. But this year, I am going to get organised. And yes, I’m going to stop leaving my clothes at the foot of the bed. Okay, David?!
Stop and smell the flowers! Stop and crunch the leaves! Stop and take a photo of the gorgeousness all around you! When I started Tuesday With Moi I was going through a difficult time. I had just moved to England and was finding it really challenging to figure out what I wanted to do and how I wanted to do it. I had lost my naturally optimistic edge and found myself getting really negative about my environment and life, so I started TWM to focus on the good. Once an hour, on the hour, I would focus my lens on something beautiful around me and in doing so, I hoped to start mentally focusing on the beautiful, the good, and the inspiring as well.
Happily, my ability to look on the bright side was restored and now, after over a year of shooting TWM, I want to focus my eye and my mind on another challenge, living in the moment. More often than not, my mind is 15 steps ahead of my body. I know exactly where I want to be in five years but have no idea where I’ll be tomorrow. I want to pace myself a little better in that regard and start paying more attention to the here and now instead of the long-haul. This year, I don’t want to wake up on Monday mornings wondering where my weekends went– instead, I want to maximise my productivity and enjoyment and focus more on doing awesome, fun, and good things now. RIGHT NOW.
You know what else I’d like? I’d like to spend more time in nature. I’d like to be able to inhale and pinpoint the different scents of each season. Lately, as I wander down the sidewalk, I’ve been trying to focus more on scent. The evergreens are especially fragrant, as are the soggy acorns and wet leaves that sludge under my feet.
Did you ever see the movie French Kiss with Meg Ryan and Kevin Kline? In it, he asks her to smell bits from the different plants that grow in his family’s vineyard and he tells her what each scent is– mint, lavender, chili, whatever. To be honest, I’m a little fuzzy on the specifics as it’s been over ten years since I saw the film, but what winds up happening is he then gives her a glass of his family’s wine and she can then pinpoint the scents in the flavour. Not only is that 1) the most romantic thing ever! it’s also 2) a good thing to know and appreciate in life. I’d like to know more about how the different elements in the fields around me influence the makeup of our lives and the food I enjoy. I want to eat a more seasonal diet and spend more time in nature, silent and observant.
And I’d also like to make more art.
AND I’d like to eat my lunches (real lunches, not just a few handfuls of nuts) somewhere other than my desk.
(Please note that I missed my 13:00 picture because I was in a meeting and didn’t feel it was appropriate to ask my client if I could pause going through his web copy with him so I could snap a quick photo. I hope you understand.)
Whilst I make goals for my birthday every year, I’m not always great at keeping them. This is because I don’t monitor my goals constructively. This year, I’m changing that.
Lately, David and I have been thinking a lot about moving… Again! But this time, not quite so drastically. In fact, we want to stay in our lovely little town, but ideally we’d like to live somewhere with a little more space. Open space, that is. And big windows, too! I want light– lots of light!– and I want a dog, which our current building’s association doesn’t allow. So yes, moving. Exciting!
Now that I’m older and wiser I should probably start being a little more well-behaved at work so Martin doesn’t glare at me from behind his monitor anymore… Let’s put well-behaved on the list then, too.
Here’s something we all need to work on (providing we’re in a relationship) and that’s being a better partner. This birthday card came in the mail yesterday and it made me chuckle because I didn’t change my last name when I got married. Kate Cox. Ha– that is so not me! No, no, I will always and forever be Kate Sims as I am very fond of my surname and think I’d have an identity crisis if I changed it. That being said, I do love being married to Mr. Cox and really should be better at doing all those wonderful things that married ladies do. You know, like vacuuming, mending socks, and keeping thoughts about how useless he is when he forgets to turn on the towel warmer! to myself. Little things, you know…
I hate it when the sun sets early and walking through town at 8:00 PM feels like walking through town at 11:30 PM. It’s just so depressing and sometimes a little eerie, too. Last night, as I was walking to meet with my writer friends, I stopped to take this picture and a drunk young(ish) man came up close to me and asked me if I was okay. “I’m fine, thanks,” I said rather curtly as I lifted my camera to my eye and focused the lens.
“I was just trying to look out for you,” the man said in an aggressive tone that seemed to indicate that I, an able-bodied young woman alone on the street in the darkness and holding an expensive camera, should have fawned on him for showing attention to my well-being. And it was in that moment that I thought– which happens now and again– along the lines of if this man came at me could I outrun him/kick his ass? The answer, in this case, was probably yes as he was small and appeared quite intoxicated, but there are some times when I stand next to a man (David, my Giant Husband, for instance) and look at how tiny my wrists, hands, legs, whatever are compared to theirs and think of how little effort a person of that size would need to really hurt me.
Whoa, don’t get the wrong idea here– I’m not living in fear or thinking every man I pass in the night is going to hurt me– I’m just trying to say that I want to be prepared should it ever happen. This is one of the many reasons I’ve started running. I want to be able to run far and run fast. I want to be able to know the difference between running an eight minute mile and a five minute mile and then be able to push my body to different speeds as if it were a machine. I want to able to run five miles without stopping by the end of the year and even though I’m not even halfway there yet, I think I’m going to make it.
This one sucks, but I want to start to drink less. Yes, folks, you heard it here first– I’m cutting back. I, Lady Katherine, a wannabe cocktail connoisseur, am going to reel in the awesome sauce. Not completely (Oh God, never would I ever), but a little bit because, let’s be honest, I don’t need to drink half a bottle of wine every time I want to veg out and watch some Project Runway. #SadTruth #TrueTruth
Hanging out with my Tunbridge Wells Writers friends yesterday and listening to their awesome projects and their passion for their writing made me realise that I need to actually start dedicating some time to creative writing. What used to be Wine Time can now be Writing Time or Reading Time or general Creating Time. Doesn’t that sound like a Fun Time?
But the time I spend with friends, will always be a really special time.
This is totally superficial, but I’ve decided that I want to start wearing mascara again this year. I haven’t worn it for months because I’m lazy, but to be 100% honest, I think I look a little more alert with a swipe of mascara on my eyes so I’m going to start wearing it again. What brands do you recommend, ladies? I’d love suggestions for something that won’t wash off in the rain/snow/tears, please.
And finally, I want to invest in nice things that will last for years. Like my new bag! I’ll tell you more about it soon. Promise!
And that, my friends, was the last day of me being 25. Here’s to a whole new year together! xx